Online dating has become the new way to meet people for just about anything, including romance and sex. Sure, the old stand-bys like clubs and bars are still there but with online dating you have the benefit of seeing the profiles of people who are also looking to connect with other people and where you won’t have the problem of meeting someone you find attractive but is, alas, not available. And with the anonymity of on line looking one doesn’t have to make a move to their intended until they have researched, steeled their nerve and know exactly what they want to say, at least for the first few opening salvos
But setting up oneself online can be tricky.
For instance, one needs to a good dating profile all the right things need to be said as well as a strong voice and intent has to be established; or at least a distinct voice that sounds like you. Then you need to find a great picture or, better yet, have a great picture taken by someone who can make you look really good. But one also needs to know what to avoid in a profile or when or when it might not be right to include salacious information or kinks; there is a chasm of difference between Fetlife and Facebook.
Attempts at humor are fine, but not all jokes work in print, and what might offend one person might not another. In the end one might have to err on the side of the bland to get laid. People are quickly out off by even the smallest hint of prejudice or body issues, religion or political issues unless they are clearly indicated to be filled out on the dating profile.
Best to side with the old axiom where religion sex and politics were never to be discussed in polite society.
It’s essential to remember that one shouldn’t close any doors one doesn’t have to online, as we don’t know what people are saying about who they meet, how they are comparing profiles, just like you are and who is ultimately friends with who else. Because there is such a wide spectrum of people who appear all across dating websites these days, we never really do know where a great connection can come from.