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What Not To Say In Your Profile


Online dating has become the new way to meet people for just about anything, including romance and sex. Sure, the old stand-bys like clubs and bars are still there but with online dating you have the benefit of seeing the profiles of people who are also looking to connect with other people and where you won’t have the problem of meeting someone you find attractive but is, alas, not available. And with the anonymity of on line looking one doesn’t have to make a move to their intended until they have researched, steeled their nerve and know exactly what they want to say, at least for the first few opening salvos

But setting up oneself online can be tricky.

For instance, one needs to a good dating profile all the right things need to be said as well as a strong voice and intent has to be established; or at least a distinct voice that sounds like you. Then you need to find a great picture or, better yet, have a great picture taken by someone who can make you look really good. But one also needs to know what to avoid in a profile or when or when it might not be right to include salacious information or kinks; there is a chasm of difference between Fetlife and Facebook.

Attempts at humor are fine, but not all jokes work in print, and what might offend one person might not another. In the end one might have to err on the side of the bland to get laid. People are quickly out off by even the smallest hint of prejudice or body issues, religion or political issues unless they are clearly indicated to be filled out on the dating profile.

Best to side with the old axiom where religion sex and politics were never to be discussed in polite society.
It’s essential to remember that one shouldn’t close any doors one doesn’t have to online, as we don’t know what people are saying about who they meet, how they are comparing profiles, just like you are and who is ultimately friends with who else. Because there is such a wide spectrum of people who appear all across dating websites these days, we never really do know where a great connection can come from.

What She (Unconsciously) Wants in a Mate


When people search hookups, they unconsciously choose mates based on a variety of factors. There is also, of course, a conscious element. So, what is she looking for – unconsciously and consciously – in a mate?

Scientists and evolutionary psychologists are still not completely sure why, but here are some strategies women have developed for picking a mate over millions of years of evolution. Warning – you’re not going to be able to fake most of this stuff.

1. Wow – this is a little intense: in 2009, a study at New Mexico State University found that men with the “dark triad” of traits (sounds scary, eh?), narcissism, Machiavellianism and psychopathy, were more likely to have had more sex partners than men chilling outside of that triad. Apparently, studies in several different countries have found this to be true.

Theories on why women dig this shit:

A) Cave woman mating strategy: cave chicks may have perceived the genetic material of bad boys to be higher in quality, so she’d have a quick quickie with him while her partner wasn’t looking, and could be sure he’d hightail it out of there after without messing her long-term romance up.

B) The dark traits are also accompanied by the ability to charm and extroversion, so these men are possible just masters at ‘seducing’ women.

2. Conversationalist Extraordinnaire

Back in the day, it was essential to our survival to build social networks. Women needed to do this for their babies and such, and that’s why they are so talented at communicating even today. Men, on the other hand, were more focused on fixing non-verbal problems and stuff. But, if you’re a dude who has mastered the art of conversation, studies have found that she will definitely feel closer and be more attracted to you.

3. Feminine AND Masculine Mugs

Women prefer both, at different times of the month. When ovulating, they want the masculine looking tough man, when not ovulating they want the gentle, feminine-looking man. Theory? When seeking a short term fuck for the purpose of making a baby, they go for testosterone guy, but at other times, when they aren’t in baby making phase, they choose the guy that seems like he might just stick around and change some diapers.

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