There is no doubt about it, a woman wants a man who will pay attention to her. Even in our most casual sex relationships, where we know that our lover may have many other lovers on the side — its possible we’ve even met them or exchanged sexy stories about our other sex hookups as a way to get in the mood. Yet even then, when we’re with her it is important for men to make her feel like the center of the attention. No matter how many we may have other than her, for the time we are with her she should be everything. Showing good listening skills will show her that we pay attention in other ways. After all, listening is a big part of being a good lover — we need to pay attention to the sounds she makes, and the words she says, guiding us to giving her bigger and better orgasms. Beyond just that, a good lover is attentive to the subtle body language, the way the hips move and thrust as pleasure grows toward climax.
Body language is important for adult dating. Observe how two lovers or even a fuck buddy relationship act when they are together. Both members of the couple will unconsciously mimic each other’s body language, leading to the two growing more intimate as the imitate. We can sometimes make use of this by subtly mimicking a movement another makes to show interest and get her attention. If she straightens her hair we might run our fingers through our own, or take a drink of water when she does. If we do not make it too obvious it can be an extremely attractive behavior. Of course if we are called on it we can just have a witty come back ready. Tell her we just want to be more like you, as the old song says.