It’s a sad state of affairs when an affair, romance or love life between a couple degenerates into the partners living like roommates. No longer able to find to find physical intimate common ground, so many couples simply stay together in a sexless relationship. Over time it even becomes manageable and in fact the old sex life both have let go becomes forgotten so much that the new way they live supersedes the old.
Still technically in love, often times the couple see more reason to stay together then be apart; even if they are not fucking anymore. Divorce is a meaty proposition-or a couple breaking-up-and if kids are involved why break up an otherwise happy home? All love is truly compromise, partners make constant concessions, surrender ever more of their individuality for a long term commitment, losing a sex life isn’t such a high price to pay for keeping a family together.
Of course by the time two people come to be intimate strangers they have probably shut-off the physical part of their lives long ago. It’s an insidious mindset that slowly creeps between two people where they slowly have sex less and less until they are sleeping in separate beds, maybe even separate rooms or parts of the house, but maintaining the appearance of a love affair for all that do not know them; or at least for those who do enter the home. Many times partners will take other lovers to explore kinks with, simply have sex with or even start whole other families with while still maintaining the first relationship.
While sex is not the most important aspect of relationship, to some people it is not important at all, and over a time some couples come to build on aspects of a life together that matter to them more. The human mind is quite adaptable and fully capable of great logical rationalizations and over time the less sex two people have the less they will want to have sex, until they get to a point that they do not even realize they are not having sex anymore and don’t even realize they are fully comfortable living the life they have built. To maintain a sex life decades into a long-term relationship takes a Herculean effort that some people simply are not equal to.