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Honesty. That is what has long been called the best policy, and it will be true forever. Much too much has been written about bisexual men on the down low. The future for bisexual dating is one of increasing openness and a more complete understanding of this very real part of the sexual orientation spectrum.

There are quite a few online sites like BiCupid and BiCafe where bisexuals can meet each other in an environment where their orientation is not only known, but celebrated. For more politically-oriented bisexuals, myriad local organizations are cropping up where bi folks might organize together. From there, if love happens, all the better.

What is a bisexual man or bisexual woman to do when dating outside of the bi pool? Again, it’s that honesty thing, no matter how difficult that sounds. If you love to suck cock and you dig pussy too, it will only become more and more of a difficult thing to talk about after months of dating. Most of the time, if you aren’t telling someone that you are bisexual, simple omission is at work. Next time you go on a date with that someone who has piqued your interest, try following the natural course of your conversation. If you wind up discussing past relationships, take a chance and mention that same-sex or opposite-sex partner, whichever you think might be startling to your date. Remember, you needn’t assume that your date is necessarily 100% gay or straight, either. You may have more in common than you think.

That said, people do have assumptions about bisexuality. Be sure that you are up on your safer sex practices and discuss these with your potential partner. When the person sees that all bisexuals aren’t out to have anonymous sex or to fuck anything that moves and can make responsible decisions, a bad stereotype will be laid to rest. Another stereotype is that bisexuals can’t be monogamous. Like anyone else, some are and some aren’t. What is your relationship style preference?

It is better to talk about these things before falling into bed. If you’ve already done the wild thing, these conversations are still better done sooner than later. Knowing each other more fully in all ways will make for better relationship potential overall.

One night, my housemates and I decided to have a small dinner party. My friends wanted me to meet a guy named Craig. His thrilling introduction to me was “Hey”, followed by being completely ignored for the entire meal until we got to dessert. Not a huge deal, I don’t have any stock in this guy. As I was talking to a friend of mine, he jumps in, interrupts our conversation and starts contradicting each thing I say, rudely sparring with me verbally. Craig started getting critical of everything about me from my wacky opinions to my alleged, stuck up attitude. I was a bit shocked that someone I had never met before would be so rude and launch such an attack on my character.

I left the dining room and didn’t think much of the situation or of him, until one of my housemates approached me later to tell me how “blown away” he was by me, and how he couldn’t get me out of his head. Apparently his inappropriate behavior was just him being extremely nervous and he wasn’t really like that, or so I was told. According to my housemates if I gave him a chance, he’d change my mind.

I’m not sure why, but I agreed to go.

He tried to impress me on the day of our date, by showing up at my dorm with a bright red viper. I’ll admit this got my attention. Apparently his father owned a dealership so he was able to borrow a car if he wanted to.

He drove me past some beautiful restaurants, suggest he take me there. He brought up drinks and dancing too, so I assumed I was going on a very nice date with him. Until his attitude returned. He starts asking me why my dress isn’t shorter, or tighter, or if I have any more makeup that I can wear. I was ready to go home when he pulled up to our dinner destination. Denny’s. A fine dining masterpiece to behold. After we got out of the car and I noticed the choice, I turned to him and said politely “Did you change your mind about where we’re going for dinner?”

That’s when he lost it. He started calling me a string of obscenities, accusing me of only wanting to hook up with me for his money. I told him his behavior was beyond inappropriate from the moment I met him, and reminded him that he was the one who mentioned the fancy evening. Craig made an inappropriate comment about my not dressing slutty enough for that kind of treatment.

I told him I had had enough and wanted to go home, and told him I refused to be treated like a sex worker. He insisted on staying to eat, and wasn’t going to leave until he did. He threw his keys at me, and told me to leave. I took the keys and headed for the car door. He went from smug to petrified as I got in. He yelled out to me that I was stupid, and that girls can’t drive stick anyway.

I couldn’t believe it, but he managed to shock me even more by that comment. I drove home in the viper. Seeing the look on his face as I left made it all worth it. Not to mention when he had to bring his dad to come and pick it up from my house later.